Category: Parent Talk
anyone ever delt with anyone calling there child the "N WORD?" if u dont know what that means which some people dont surprisingly, it means "nigger" if so, how did u handle it? I have a son who will b 2 on the 12th of this month who is mixed with black and white, he went to the park the other day with my little cousin, and these hispanic kids called him a nigger and were all like I hope u fall on the curb u porch monkey. my cousin brought him home and I was enraged. the hispanic children's mom was there but didnt say a word. I was going 2 go up there but my cousin said they already left.
First how can they call my baby a nigger? That made me inferiated because my baby's name is Kei'Shon MarTavionne Trammell and so what it might b a different name, but so b it! I named him that and it is going 2 stick with him! What do u think I should do when or if he comes across someone calling him the "n word" and making racists comments like porch monkey? help please!!
and o yeah how when he gets older do I explain it to him? His dad is not involved.
kristabell, this just breaks my heart to hear that those other children said that about your son. Kids no matter what are going ot be mean. When he gets old enough and if kids use those words around him, tell him that those are not nice names to use, and what other kids may say aren't true about him. I know if someoen said something like that about my daughter I'd be enraged also, but try to approach the situation with a calm demeanor if it happpens again, which I hope it doesn't.
My babies are mixed race too. My son looks a lot like me and not his father who is African-American. The only thing anybody's ever done was ask if my husband was his daddy. It irritated me, but not enough to make me want to go off on this person. My daughter is on her way, so who knows who she'll take after. Somebody might have something smart to say somewhere down the road, but it's my choice to have these children, and God made them who they are, not me.
we've had a case in the UK where a fifteen year old boy was convicted of racial hatred charges. the sentancing is yet to come, but this was a fifteen year old boy being racially abusive to a fourteen year old girl. the kids know what they are saying, and waht the words mean from a very early age now, so don't take this lightly. if it persists, go to the police, who, should, take it seriously. i am guarded about this, as some police do not take issues of racially agrivated crime very seriously at all. we in the UK still have a problem with this among our police, but the report in t the stephen lawrence murder case and all that went with that, seemes to have changed preceedures quite a bit.
all i know is my baby isn't that, and I refuse to let him be called that. Its dead wrong and if the parents can't do anything about it, then someone needs to deal with the situation. im tired of being nice!!!
Is that really the poor child's name? No offense meant but isn't someone with such a bizarre name much more likely to be teased and such growing up? Then again I suppose it's better than Honor, Apple or other assorted celebrity names, I always thought Rotten Pineapple was a good name myself.
first of all let me say i'm white, caucasian, whatever the politically correct term these days is. in this day and age, I can't imagine that people still act like such pigs and their kids are permitted to carry on the tradition. In my neighborhood we have all kinds of kids from all varieties of combinations, and i have never seen this. What a wonderful thing it is for me to see arab, spanish, and black kids playing together. Tiny ones don't understand each others' languages sometimes, but they do understand sharing and caring.
It is a total lack of respect for one person to call another racial names. the child may not have meant anything and been mirroring what he or she sees. He/she figured she'd try it out and see what happened.this doesn't excuse it.
if I had been in the situation, I'd have walked over and asked the child if he she knew the meaning of what they were saying. They may have just heard mommy use those words. If this is the case, and they honestly didn't know, then I'd get down on their level and firmly state that those names are hurtful ugly and nasty things to say. Words hurt and should be used carefully. If mommy got all outraged, I don't know what i'd do except tell her to put a leash on her kids tongues. My dad was a red neck and used the n word around my son at age four. He told my dad to be ashamed of himself and that god didn't want him talking that way. My dad fell back on the you better teach that boy respect line. I said I was proud of michael for speaking his mind. The bible says that little children will lead us so he ought to look in the mirror. Then I told my son that the bible says to tell the truth in love and saying that grand pa should be ashamed isn't too loving.
Well, kids ahve to get the racist words and ideas from somewhere. They generally don't make these tings up. So either it comes from the parents or from tv shows/friends, probably means someone is not spending time with their kids explaining life and the dos and donts of it.
Children, in general, can be extremely cruel critters so one just has to expect things like these to happen, sad as it is, doesn't mane one shouldn't act or try to change them or stop them when they occur, but I don't think, sadly,its unnatural for a child to try out things he/she has heard or seen on tv or otherwise experienced to see how it works, and they don't yet understand the social rules we all live by (or should live by anyway), so it's our job to explain these rules and customs and enforce them as much as we can.
ok but if Kei'Shon went up to a hispanic kid and was all like u spick get the hell off that toy i want it! go back 2 your own country u dirty spick! that would b waaay wrong and totally unacceptible!! but its ok 4 mexican kids 2 come up 2 Taye and call him a nigger?? um hell no I dont even think so!!! there mom or big brother who was there should have said something or intervened or something.
Yes, I agree kristabell, the parent/gardian with the child should have explained to him/her why that's not acceptable, but we are only responsible for how we raise our children. It was not ok at all that your son was treated the way he was. I'm of Hispanic heritage and I know how much it hurts when racist terms are used. Call me if ya need to talk
i'm partially Native American--Navajo Indian. I just found that out this year. Evidently, my family was too ashamed to tell the truth. I do remember when i was a child my mother telling me that her father did not want to speak Spanish in public because the family would be judged. He was ashamed of who he was. He grew up in New Mexico. However, my aunt told me that we covered up the fact we were Indians to keep from being slaves or forced into some labor camps by telling the authorities we were Spainiords and stuff like that and acting like them. A lot of our documents were destroyed, so we don't have a whole lot left proving who we are. But, we do have some things. I'm trying to register with the tribe now. I just don't know where to begin. I do have the proof that I need, as my aunt sent it to me. If there are any Navajo Indians here who are registered with the tribe, please help.
so, I grew up thinking I was something else. I learned my true heritage from my aunt. She told me, "Not many in the family know the truth. Only I do. I want you to know, too." I went and told everyone else. My siblings were shocked and surprised. My mother was happy because she wants to go back to school and can do it for free. She also wants to get a grant for her business. She is happy to know the truth, as well. I can remember running upstairs when i found out the truth and telling everyone.
Wanting to learn more about my heritage, I did research on how Native Americans were treated, and I cried. They are still the most under priveledged race in society. Not many people really know that because it is kept quiet. But, it is true. My boyfriend is also a Native--an Alaska Native to be exact. He told me some things about his people, also. Wow! i hate that one race has to be viewed as inferior compared to another. We are all people. We all bleed. We are all pink on the inside. We all cry tears. We all love. I just wish it would stop.
yeah u r right!! we r all the same inside. u know that song by mark wills dont laugh at me? its a good 1 listen 2 it!